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Thursday, May 26, 2011 . 11:06 pm
为什么不说?
不久前在和好友和她男友一起吃晚饭时谈起了我们这一群从小学就认识的女友们的共同点。他说 “你们不都一样吗?有事时不说,都是等到自己承受不了,等到哭的时候再来说。” 听了过后想都没想就回了一句 “因为不想给人负担。” 他就问“那怎么会是个负担?” 因为自己的脑袋思考得比较慢所以那时候没来得及反应就直接说“我不知道 ”
其实不说的原因多得很﹣
一,不想让人有负担,不想麻烦别人。
不管是在工作上,家庭里或感情上,每个人都有自己该烦恼,该解决的事。觉得让他知道的话,就是给他多一件事操心,甚至有可能会影响他对某种事的看法与心态,正面的倒没关系特但要是负面的就糟了。特别是在知道他自己也有特别烦恼或比自己的事更烦恼的烦恼时,就更加觉得不应该和他分享自己的问题。
二,不想让自己做一个什么都不会做,只会依赖的弱者。
想说自己先尝试着去解决,并且从那儿学到点东西,让自己在学问,成熟度,看待事情的心态,眼光等有所成长或改变。过程中也可以让自己多了解自己一点。如果每当遇到困难就直接依赖着别人来解决问题而自己也没半点想去尝试着去解决,我觉得那久而久之就会习惯,会让自己变成一个我不喜欢的自己。
不说的理由多得很…以上是其中两个。也就是因为这些理由自己身上就有了一层保护色 -- 没事时说没事,有事时还是说没事;开心时很开心,不开心时也还是很开心。知道这样很不健康但是已经习惯了。况且与其让自己变成一个自己不喜欢的自己感觉不如就这样,继续这样还比较好一点。
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